Poll: Size Matters?
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By Shawn McKee
Staff Writer
Does size matter?
What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear that question? For most people, their mind wanders below the belt and a naughty grin creeps across their face. They know what the question is in reference to without any further explanation.
My swelling inbox is overflowing with emails geared toward increasing my manhood, satisfying my lover and "opening new possibilities to my penis." My penis loves new possibilities, but I hadn't really considered enlarging my member until I received an email with a sexually graphic photo that said, in no uncertain terms:
"Having a small package isn't a problem, not doing anything about it IS!! If you don't soon do something, then she will be getting from someone else, maybe a friend, your brother or a neighbor."
It got me thinking, does what a man packs in his pants matter more to his lover, or does it matter more to him?
According to one survey of 200 women, 82 percent were satisfied with what they considered an average size penis -- about 6 inches. But it's difficult to know the average penis size for men since most tend to exaggerate their size -- one way or the other.
Three separate studies done in laboratory settings found that the average erect penis length for men ranged from 5-6 inches, which is a bit of a contrast from what the emails I'm getting are telling me.
"Many, possibly most, statistics you read are not from legitimate research, but from marketing companies who want you to feel bad about your penis size (so you'll buy their product)," according to Cory Silverberg, AASECT certified sex educator.
One email I received seemed to follow this hypothesis:
"You hate your penis." (I do?) "Love it with Penis Enlarge Patch. Get a monstrous penis with Penis Enlarge Patch."
So I did some, um, research and watched some adult films to check some stats. (I thought this would be safer than checking men's equipment in the locker room of my gym.) The adult film stars tended to skew on the larger side, I suddenly felt inferior again.
Then I got to sit down with Jenna Haze, the charming and frank star of more than 100 adult films, who told me that most of those men are chosen because they are unusually large.
I felt a little better -- partially because she touched my leg during the interview! Then, I found some useful information that eased my mind on WebMD:
"The most sensitive part of the vagina is the part that is closest to the outside of a woman's body. Four inches will cover that," reported the article, which continued: "About three-quarters of women don't reach orgasm by intercourse unless they have simultaneous clitoral stimulation -- no matter what the size of the inserting body part."
So I learned that size isn't necessarily as important as skill, men are probably more concerned with their penis size than their partners and most emails from penis enlargement companies will be poorly written.
As long as a man does his duties to please his partner -- and he's about average -- then he shouldn't worry about purchasing pumps, pills or patches that probably won't work anyway.
So men, celebrate your penises! Women, tell your man his size is super, and maybe we can get over this size-ist behavior perpetrated by unscrupulous advertisers. But I want to know what you think, does size matter?
Shawn McKee graduated from the University of Oklahoma with a BA in Journalism and has written for The Broward and Miami New Times. He's returning his penis patch for a full refund because using it only caused a rash, and not a "monstrous penis" as promised.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 1:13:00 AM - 
said...
I can't believe that I am answering this question (even though it is a legitimate inquiry). In my younger days, I had a great deal of experience with various partners. I concluded, as did most of my friends who had dated various men, that size actually DOES matter to a degree, but that both prowess and interest in your partner both matter much, much more.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 4:36:00 AM - said...
I 'firmly' believe that larger penises give me greater satisfaction. My best girl friend also agrees. Skill, with even that, makes a great deal of difference. I don't think my clitoris is as sensitive as the books say it is. My g-spot, and yes I have a VERY definite one, is what gives me mind blowing orgasms. And the larger the penis, the better the 'rub', hence the mind blowing!
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 5:49:00 AM - 
Iamme said...
Yes, it matters. Definitely, it is possible to work with someone of average size and be satisfied. However, size does matter.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 5:49:00 AM - 0U812 said...
Size does matter. Small is OK but too big can be a problem. I broke up with a guy because he was so big it hurt. It hurt a lot. Technique is another matter.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 5:58:00 AM - said...
Length isn't usually an issue anyway!! Girth feels better but, when a man knows how to please a woman, and vice versa, the outcome is the same. Be proud of who you are and what you have! Self-esteem is a VERY attractive characteristic!!!
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 6:04:00 AM - goph said...
The size of a man's penis doesn't matter...the size of his ego does.
He would be better to concentrate on pleasing the woman in more ways than with his penis anyway.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 7:30:00 AM - said...
Its not the size of a man's penis but the emotional connection for most women.Women just want to know their man's package is not being delivered to multiple addresses.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 7:31:00 AM - said...
i dont think size matters. in fact i prefer an average size 5 to 6 inchs. i find if a guy is to large it hurts the woman. after all we aren't bottomless wells you know. i also think the article was right i dont get off just by having sex. i usually get get off quicker just by foreplay. that is if the guy does things right. but i find most guys aren't interested in foreplay they just want to get themselves off by having sex.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 7:57:00 AM - said...
I've had several partners over my 40 plus years, small, fat, skinny, long, average. My current partner is very large and sometimes it's just too much to handle. Plus, often he feels that having a big one is all the skill he needs, so our interludes can be disappointing. The best lover i've ever had was also the smallest, but he used a great deal of skill in many areas.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:22:00 AM - said...
My husband is just perfect for me. I'm not kidding. If he were bigger it would hurt me and he is what you referred to as the average size. He is just right as far as big around also. As I have told my husband, I don't want to have with someone who is to long, like Ron Jeremy. I once dated a guy that was so short that we couldn't do anything. He was big enough around and he was average size in body size, but down there he was very short and I think that it did effect his life and the way he felt about him self. I also think you are right about how commercials play into the insecurities men have about size and length. To those guys out there who worry about size, I would say if you are average you have nothing to worry about and it is true about how you use it. Try to please you mate in any way she likes and you will make her happy.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:23:00 AM - said...
Size does matter to a degree, not the length, but the width. it's not very fullfilling to be with a very small member even with some skill...
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:32:00 AM - said...
It's mostly the girth that matters. I'll take a short, fat one over a long, skinny one any day. That said, much depends on a man's technique and his desire to please his partner. A man should use his whole body to make love, not just a body part.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:32:00 AM - said...
I think the chemistry between partners is more important than anything...if that's right everything else including great sex falls into place as long as both are trying to please the other.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:50:00 AM - said...
Of course size matters. I feel sorry for the men who desperately cling to the cliche' "It's not the size of the waves, it's the motion of the ocean." Sorry boys. That's just not the case.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 8:55:00 AM - said...
"Only talend concerns a woman of taste, maestro."
I *have* had the privilege of making love with men of all sizes, shapes and colors. While length or girth can give you an illusory sense of satisfaction, it is utterly inconsequential to such things as understanding clitoral and g-spot stimulation, and a lover having sensitivity to his partner's stage of arousal.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 9:26:00 AM - said...
I don't have alot of experience with variety, but personally, I can say that my best experience was with the man with the smallest penis. He admitted freely that it wasn't "that" big, but he more than made up for it with technique. Still, it wasn't just that. I guess it was the way it turned, it just hit my G Spot right on and I almost always would start to orgasm right away.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 10:05:00 AM - said...
No, size doesn't matter. My husband is a unbelievably good lover but he is very small in size. I could care less about penis size.
I think the funniest thing is how guys love their balls!
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 1:45:00 PM - said...
i've been with guys in all ranges and would rather have someone on the smaller side... too big hurts! plus one of the larger guys didnt have much libido...says he would get light headed from all the blood rushing to one area (he was VERY large).
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 3:12:00 PM - said...
It is a scientific fact that women have no feeling beyond the first 3-4 inches of their vagina so no size doesnt matter. Ive been with both ends of the spectrum and while under 4 inches is a problem any average size does the job. I think women who prefer large penises like the idea of them-its a mental idea. You can reach your g spot with your finger so a penis only needs to be that big and then angled the right way. A talented lover is WAAAY better than a big one.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 6:51:00 PM - said...
Size does not really make a big difference. Luckily, nowadays, there are toys to make up for men that may be too small. In my experience, the better lovers are the ones who think they may be lacking in size. These men seem to do more to satisfy in other sexual ways, which, can be wonderful. These men seem to be more open to toys too, which can be a win, win, situation. Because the more pleased we are, the more we are willing to please the other.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 6:59:00 PM - Lexi said...
I fail to see the relevance or value of this topic on a weight loss site. Unfortunately today was my first visit to this site. I'm not inclined to return.
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 7:13:00 PM - said...
I had too much of a reaction to your final answer,....soooo.....Sorry to tell ya friend..Size Does Matter...Very Much~! But as some of the other responses have already related....feelings also weigh into the factoring....and chemistry....Have you ever had a favorite girlfriend whom you loved dearly....But....her vagina didn't do anything for ya....So,...Go Figure...
From,
An Oldie,but Goldie Honey!
Comment: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 10:13:00 PM - said...
I think there are as many female opinions on this subject as there are male penises. Regardless of what we women think, however, men all want to hear us say that size doesn't matter. To which I say, if they want us to tell them size dosn't matter, they have to be willing to tell us the same thing!
Comment: Wednesday, April 23, 2008 1:17:00 PM - said...
What scientific evidence "proves" that there's no feeling beyond 3-4" in the vagina? Size definitely matters and from MY experience, I can feel a signifcant difference with larger penis... beyond 4" in the hole. I prefer thickness (girth) over a length, but I find that too long of a penis (7"+) is just a waste of... umm junk. So in the end, an average 6" long, beefy penis is just right. For the guys - don't think that because you may have a good size, that you're exempt from foreplay. Keep using the rest of your body. It takes more than your meat stick to satisfy a woman.
Comment: Thursday, April 24, 2008 10:31:00 PM - said...
I remember time of thinking size mattered, then prowess, then girth. I finally realized after various partnerships that some people just seem to "fit" better than others. I agree clitoral stimulation is important, and yes a g-spot invigorating orgasm is indeed the best, but there hasn't been a size or shape that failed in that area when I had the driver's seat. My current epiphany is simply that we are our own jigsaws and we're looking for the right fitting piece.
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