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Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 1:42:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

I am a 52 yr old woman and I was raised with my parents spanking me and my brothers. Rasising my own son, I followed the bible in which it states "spare not the rod and spoil the child" we are to also"train up a child in the way that he/she must go". spanking in moderation is ok. spanking in rage is abuse. if you are angry, walk away until you are calm then talk to the child. if after several no's to a child, a light spank or sting helps to enforce your NO.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 2:48:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

Spanking a child is not a crime. If it is used in the right way. Now if the child has bruising then yes it is but if not then no. people ought to just stop and think for once in there life.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 4:17:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

I am a mother of a 7 months old daughter and I do not want my daughter to grow up the way I did. i do agree that it should be illegal because as a parent i believe that if i have an open relationship with my daughter, even when things dont go right i can be able to talk to her. I am already starting to teach her manners and things that are wrong, she is 7 months old and when i say No this is wrong, she turns and smile or giggle because she doesnt yet understand but having started at an early stage like this I believe that even when she grows she will understand that better.I grew up with very strict parents whereby I couldnt talk to my mother about anything even when I was a teenager i went through that stage very tough because whenever I had problems my mother would shout then followed by corporal punishment, i grew up knowing that my mother had failed me.I want the best for my daughter,she will not be exposed to that kind of treatment because it also creates a lot of anger and trauma in a child. And some parents take out their frustrations on their children.Children who are still being punished like that grow up in fear, anger and often get violent with other children because that is what they get where they are coming from.I as a matter of fact grew up with a lot of anger towards my parents because a lot of times I got beaten for unreasonable things, even today when I think back, I cry so much and I just want an explanation for that.There was a time when my mother and father locked me in a room and beat me up because I came home late from school when I had attended an extra maths class and caught the late bus, I was not even asked to explain and what hurt me more is that when they were done beating me they locked me in the room and when my brother came back he got into the room and added up beating me and they didnt even care. Today I am working, have a happy life with my husband and my daughter and they act like proud parents. I grew up with this anger and I am glad that today I can share this with the world.Even today I still cannot talk to my mother about anything that happens in my life because she failed to listen when I needed her. Corporal punishment creates a monster, and parents often want to ask themselves why is their children like that and forgetting that they are the cause of everything. I love my baby too much to lift my hand for her, I just want those parents who are still doing that to stop that and start communicating with their children.

thank you

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 4:22:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

People who thrash their kids now will not stop because of a no-spanking law. Parents who are trying to do their best will have yet another avenue of reactive discipline taken away - a quick smack on the butt can take the message home and make the child realise the danger of their actions and also the limits of their actions as in setting parameters.
Children have all the rights and no responsibilities, parents have all the responsibilities and no rights, and the kids know it!!! Government legislation has no business trying to implement such a law unless they are prepared to see a whole new culture of off-the-rail generations in the future and are prepared to deal with that.
Continuing verbal abuse will do much more harm than a quick smack.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 5:53:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

I grew up when spanking wasn't an issue at home or in grade school and junior high. It sure seems like kids were much more well-behaved and grew up with more respect back then. You didn't have the crime, gangs and total lack of respect for society and others trying to live peacefully in it. You didn't hear the foul mouths of kids or adults like you do today. There was nothing wrong with the fear of a spanking. Today, kids are growing up with no fear of any kind of punishment and are getting away with anything!

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 7:48:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

I definitly know theres nothing wrong with spanking!A tap on a childs buttom will let them know what they did was wrong.I'm a better person for it because my mother spank my bottom.Not all of my punishments are spankings.my children lose privleges or they go to their room and think about what they did that was wrong.Then we talk about the situation.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 7:50:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

i think spanking should be allowed in the home because todays kids are just getting right out of hand due to not being able to disipline in the home.thats why the crime rate pregnancy among other things have risen drastically for the government says no spanking and the kids know it also if you try to disipline your child today when they get right out of hand they threaten you with abuse. well i have had two boys that have gotten severly out of hand due to drugs and booze and it all stems down to not being able to spank them when they have done wrong and grounding and taking away things do not work for it is only a game to them the saying goes take away the rod spoil the child well i believe this to be true and i think that the government should open their eyes as to what these kids are doing today because of their law and taking the rights away from parents

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 8:15:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

There are some children who in my 0opinion need more than a talking to when they get out of line. Spanking to me is not the way to go but if a child doen not listen to their parents what are you suppose to do? I am the parent and what I say goes! My children no this and they also know that if they do not listen and understand what I am saying there will be consecenses for their behaviour. I will smack there hands or bottom, nothing else, not 2 or 3 or 4 times. One time is enough for them to understand that you must listen. Spanking is something that is needed but there must be a limit. My parents never spanked myself or my 3 brothers but a good smack when qwe got out of hand always brought us back to reality. Todays parent (which I am) Is not allowed to raise there children and its showing buy the way the children are disrespectful to everyone. Thanks to the government.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 8:31:00 AM -  raven said...  

Lets look at the world 50 years ago and look at the world today shall we? Crime is more violent, children are more disrespectful, why because they are not learning cause and effect! You do something wrong you are punished. I believe that this is because parents are now afraid to discipline their kids. My child is almost 9 years old. I spank. I have only had to swat this child maybe 7 times in her entire life. When she endangering herself, others or being extremly disrespectful. I explain why I am doing it and then administer the punishment. I routinely get compliments on how well behaved she is. We have a great realationship. My sister did not believe in spanking and let her son reach the age of 5 before she gave in and spanked him. Time out do not work for all kids either do lectures or removal of rewards. It has taken almost 3 years to get her son to "listen" to her and it is only because now there IS a real punishement. Spare the rod spoil the child. Everybody is so busy being politically correct that they are forgetting how to stand up for themselves and the truth. Just my 2 cents

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 8:36:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

I THANK A CHILD 3 AND YOUNGER SHOULD NOT BE SPANKED ONLY ON THE HAND LIKE IF HE OR SHE IS TOUCHING SOMETHING HOT OR MIT GET CUT SOME KIDS SAYING NO WON,T HELP BUT YOU NEED TO KNOW YOUR KIDS SOME PARENTS DON,T KNOW HOW TO TREAT KIDS,GOD SAYS TO SPANK BUT NOT AT 3 AND YOUNGER THATS DUM, HE WON,TS YOU TO USE YOUR HEAD,THANK YOU.PS I HAVE 4 KIDS 6 GRAND KIDS AND I LOVE THEM VERY MUCH .

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 9:23:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

there is a difference between spanking and beating a child.
a mother of 6 and a grandmother of 11.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 9:52:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

i think spanking is ok to a point you shouldn't hit them hard but where they know you are serious. Think if you had no displince what would you be like. my parent spanked me and i think i am a well behave adult that says thank you to my mother for showing me the right way and having some there to show me she cared how i act she showed me love in displince. i think it's so retarded you have to worry about child abuse being called on you if you spank or tap your childs butt in public. how are they going to learn what they did wrong in the store if you cant spank them there i'm sorry but there needs to be displince you tell your kids thats wrong, ok for the first, second,and maybe the third time but they keep throwig that fit and you can't spank them because, why oh thats right you just abused your child. well i'm sorry but displince is not child abuse.i'm a loving mother of 3 but they know i care for them even if they get a spanking...........

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 10:16:00 AM -  Anonymous said...  

Should spanking be made illegal? In my opinion no it should not. Here is why, when all other methods of discipline has failed then a swat to the buttocks is required then do so. Yes I spank my 11 yr old son after I have tryed time outs , grounding him and even taking his toys and game systems away but I have found that a swat to his rear makes him listen. Let me tell you people about some trouble we had with him a couple months of a go at school. We live on a military post and the rules of behavior for our children in school and outside of the home is strict alot more then most realize. Well that siad he was constantly fighting in school not just typpical push and shove kind of stuff it got to the point. Where he threatned another kid w/phyiscal harm w/ a weapon. Yes he was expelled from school but I had it arranged where he had to sit in front of the priniciples office for the 2 days expellsion.But when I and his step dad sat down w/ the principle and him he was very rude to all of us and refused to listen to 3 grown adults. it got to the point where I said do I need to spank your ass so you will know we mean business and the prinicple of his school offered us the use of her office or WE the parents could take him and "do business" and bring him back. Let me tell you I was floored when this happened.But you know what after this he now shows the respect due to an adult, and he nows know he can go to anyone of his teachers and they will help him talk out his anger.My son has ADHD,but that does not and will not excuse bad behavior.No i don't think the goverment should limit any parent on how the choose to discipline their child.I was spanked as a child and I'm not talking 1 or 2 hits on my rear end, my mom would get so angry and hit us with what ever was handy. SO I KNOW THE DIFFERNECE IN DISCIPLINE AND ABUSE.But even for all the abuse I went through I am responsible and respectfull adult.

Comment: Thursday, March 22, 2007 12:38:00 PM -  jill said...  

It depends on the age of the child, the incident that you are disciplining them for, and also whether or not this is a repeat action that other methods haven't worked for. There are times when time out is necessary, taking away priviledges may be necessary, but there is also a time to spank. As with any disciplinary action a parent or caregiver needs to be careful that they themselves are calm and has thought about what needs to be done before acting. This moment of reflection for the adult will insure that they do not go to far with a spanking. One thing we also need to consider is when we were coming up most of us were spanked and now that people are not sure whether or not it's ok children are more disrespectful and criminal offenses from teens including drug use has increased. Maybe if the government will allow parents to be parents our next generation can be an asset instead of a liability to our country.